Socialite and businesswoman Vera Sidika has urged women not to rely on cooking, cleaning, or bedroom tricks to keep a man in a relationship.
In an Instagram post on Monday, September 15, 2025, Sidika wrote: “Here to remind you that no amount of cooking, cleaning, cartwheels, monkey styles can EVER keep a man. Stay woke, sisters.” She warned that putting excessive effort into domestic roles or intimacy does not guarantee a partner’s loyalty.
Sidika’s message challenges long-standing cultural beliefs that a woman’s value in a relationship is tied to her ability to maintain the home or please her partner sexually. She argued that many women lose themselves by overcompensating, thinking it will prevent infidelity or abandonment.
The mother of two has built a reputation for speaking candidly about love, marriage, and relationships, often sharing her personal experiences to encourage women to prioritise themselves. In her latest post, she emphasised that true loyalty and commitment must come willingly from a partner, rather than being bought through sacrifices or efforts to hold a relationship together alone.
